Ghosting someone when you’re dating or “talking” to or whatever is childish and rude. It’s sad that in the year of our Lord, 2020, on Beyonce’s Internet, and in Blue Ivy’s PlayHouse this has to be done… I mean, we’re all adults here. Yet, here we are.
I really want to know what makes someone think that vanishing into thin air is cute or more appropriate than just merely saying, “I don’t think this is working for me” or “I had a nice time, but this didn’t feel like it would go anywhere.” If you don’t want to say it to somebody’s face, there’s texting and FB messenger or whatever dating app you met him/her through.
Or has the feeling of rejection or the FEAR of rejection left people so fragile that we can’t even be honest about how we really feel when we’re dating? Don’t get me wrong, some folks can’t take NO for an answer. Remember the story about the 19-year-old college student that told a random guy on the street NO then, he brutally raped her, killed her, then left her for her sister and police to find the next day?
On the other side of that same coin… for those who have been ghosted, do you realize when someone is being honest and upfront? Do you recognize when someone tells you how they feel, do you accept their answer or do you begin to get aggressive yourself b/c you didn’t like what they said? Do you take their word and back off, as they have asked you to do?
One thing about me is that I love to communicate. I may shut down when I am angry to keep from saying something I’ll regret, but when it passes, then I’m ready to talk. THERAPY taught me that!
Personally, the minute someone doesn’t want me around is the same minute I no longer want to be there. ~Me
There’s no real way to get around rejection. It’s going to happen. That’s life! However, the way you choose to deal with it says a lot about you and how you were raised. Do you move on to the next or do you force yourself onto someone who doesn’t want you in the first place and told you so?
I mean, forcing yourself on someone becomes a crime and well, let’s not go there today. I know that when someone tells me NO or when I tell someone NO, it means NO. I don’t have to explain. I don’t have to give a reason. It’s a complete sentence. FULL STOP!
I just wish more guys accepted it without taking it as a blow to their egos. I don’t know what makes them think they are entitled to a woman’s body or her time just b/c they… let me digress. The point is rejection happens and NO still means NO! ❤