All too often, parents don’t allow their children to have an opinion, choice, or say in anything that takes place in their lives. Of course, the idea is for children to listen to their parents and do what their parents say without question. But sometimes, especially when they reach a certain age, they should have some involvement in their own lives b/c eventually, they will have FULL control over their lives.
What you don’t want is an adult who isn’t capable of making their own decisions b/c at some point, they will seek out people who will take advantage of that and end up in horrible relationships or rely heavily on their parents to make simple choices for them. Why? B/c they were never given a chance to make even the smallest decisions for themselves. See how things from childhood follow people into adulthood? Lemme digress tho b/c I don’t want to go down that rabbit hole. That’s another post for another day.
Anyway, what I want to talk about is giving children the ability to have a voice. The chance to say things they need to say without fear of getting in trouble. I mean, if you want truth-tellers… you have to allow them to tell the truth, right? So, when this mom asked her child this… I loved the answer she got.
While this tweet is old, the lesson is timeless. Allow your children to be able to come to you and talk to you about anything. If you ask a question, let them answer. When “Kira” told her mom that she likes to be alone sometimes, that’s the making of an introvert. She let her mom know that she needs time to recharge by herself and there’s nothing wrong with that. That’s normal.
I love that her mom didn’t get offended or attack her child, but instead encouraged her to share. How else would the mom know unless she asked? Let’s be real. Parents don’t always do everything right. They make mistakes too. This teaches two things. Kira can be honest with her mom and her mom can accept critiques of her parenting. I love it!
Example: My mom has three adult children. Me, the oldest and an EXTREME introvert. My sister a mix of introvert and extrovert, but mostly introverted. Then, my brother who is an extreme extrovert. My mother had to figure out how to parent each of us differently b/c we’re all very different and let me tell you… she didn’t always get it right. Hell, she’s still trying to figure me out, but that’s neither here or there. 😳🥴😂
Parents, I simply want to say that it’s okay to not have all the answers. Sometimes, your children can teach you a thing or two. That’s totally okay! Just be open to it. You’ll be amazed at what you learn especially b/c every child is different. Life’s a journey, children are a puzzle and need different things to be happy, healthy, and free to be themselves. Find the pieces that work for that child and grow together. ❤